Bambi. Coco. Mercedes. Beth.

So… what does your name say about you? What do you want your name to convey? What’s with the questions? It’s just a frikin’ name right?

When choosing a name one must not forget that it is one of the first things you will say to a customer. It can be a great marketing tool if you keep a few things in mind.

I actually stumbled on this principle by accident. When I first began dancing, I chose the name Jasmine because it is a flower that smells nice; it sounds exotic and is familiar to most cultures. However, as it so often happens, I moved to a new club. There was a Jasmine already working there and a girl dancing by my real name so both options were out.

Now came the dilemma. Do I choose another popular name or do I go with something more obscure? I decided the latter because I had regulars who followed me over to this new club and if I needed to move again, I wanted them to be able to find me.

Years prior, I had read the book Perelandra. I had considered it for a name but shied away from it. It was original but… This time I reconsidered it and went with it. As I used it, I became more comfortable and began to see a pattern emerge. Because the name is so unusual, people would ask me what it means, where it is from and what the book is about. From simply introducing myself, I found I was quickly engaged in intriguing conversation all the while building important rapport. Once the familiarity was established it became very easy to ask for table dances and get them.

I can hear some of you say “I can’t change my name now, I’ve been dancing for too long and customers already know me.” Sometimes it a good thing to re-invent your persona, especially if the current one isn’t generating much income. Only you can decide whether it would be worth it or not. You can also access a change in look to accompany your new name. If your current look isn’t attracting the type of men you are looking for, this is a great place to start.

Now, how to choose the best stripper name. Some names convey intelligence while others do not. Stay away from the most popular names like Porche, Angel, Diamond, etc. Those names show that you lack imagination.
You’ve basically got two options at this point:

A. Go with a ‘normal’ sounding name. i.e., Jenny, Amber, Mariah, Mary, Hope.

B. Something more exotic. i.e., Lailoni, Kimora, Avalon, Naiya. See ‘Exotic Names List

If you choose option A, then you need to pick a name that fits you. Most customers will ask you if that is your real name. If you choose to say yes, it needs to be believable.

If you go with option B, then the more obscure the better. When they ask you if it’s your real name or not, say, ‘Of course not. We all have stage names here.’ And then go on to tell them about your name. You’ll want to do some research about the name you choose as some customers will try to flip you shit for it. As you tell them what it means, you show that you are smart and sassy. Both of which are sexy.

Also think about the possible ways that customers will joke about your name and what smart-ass retort you can come back with. For example: A recent customer told me about how he was sitting at the rack and a girl named Tanzanite was dancing. To challenge her, he asked ‘Where is Tanzanite on the periodic table?’ She gave him a blank stare and turned around to dance for someone else. Now, if she had been smarter about it, she could have done some research about Tanzanite. She could say,’ Tanzanite is what is called a Zoisite. Zoisite is a calcium aluminum hydroxy sorosilicate belonging to the epidote group of minerals.’ She doesn’t have to actually know what that means because most men wouldn’t know what it meant either. The goal is to come across as savvy.

If you are unsure about your name and would like my opinion, leave a comment with your choices and I’ll email you back with my suggestions.

Hope this helps!

~Perelandra

Nov 7, 2008

DETROIT — The family of a teenager who died last year of a drug overdose shortly after she began working as a nude dancer is suing the Lincoln Park strip club that hired her and its owner.

“The wrongful death suit alleges that the Atlantis and its owner, Nagy Mickhail, acted in an unlawful manner when they knowingly hired a minor … and allowed her to be exposed to a sexually hostile work environment.”

After leaving the club with him and a friend, Brown and another dancer ended up less than a quarter mile away in Room No. 9 of the Moon Light Motel in Melvindale.

While there, the four partied the night away, engaging in sex and snorting a large supply of illegal drugs.

A few hours later, Brown was found unresponsive on the motel room floor. Minutes later, she was pronounced dead of a cocaine overdose at Oakwood Hospital & Medical Center in Dearborn.

In sentencing Alexander to 11 to 20 years in prison for delivery of a controlled substance causing death, Wayne County Circuit Judge Ulysses Boykin said this case “all too graphically illustrates the dangers of illegal drugs” and proves “what drugs have done to our society.”

A state lawmaker took notice of the case and has introduced two bills aimed at adult-based businesses.

Senate Bill 1612 would allow municipalities to adopt ordinances requiring anyone working at an adult entertainment establishment to obtain a permit from the municipality. That process would allow each municipality to verify the person is of legal age to work in such an establishment and to conduct a background check as well.

Senate Bill 1613 is similar to one being proposed in Hawaii, which would require adult entertainment businesses to pay a $3 fee for each customer who enters the business. The fee is deposited into a domestic violence and sexual assault fund. The money is earmarked solely for helping victims of sexual abuse and domestic violence.

“My family and I are devastated over our loss caused by these illegal, manipulative acts,” says Grandfather in a press release. “Stephanie had a bright future ahead of her and it’s infuriating that her life was cut short because of club owners who prey on our children. We’re grateful to Senator Basham for stepping up and addressing this serious issue.”

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Ok. This article caught my attention for several reasons. First, the daughter was obviously hanging out with the wrong kids in the first place and most likely was into drugs before she started dancing. Second, regardless of her past actions, the responsibility of educating and passing on COMMON SENSE is of the parents. Period! If this girl had any wits about her, she’d know not to go to a frikin motel with -anyone- much less an owner or club employee. I agree that the guy should do some time for distributing drugs. But the article paints complete innocence of the girl. WTF? She went willingly!

The rest of the article is infuriating because it neglects to address the real issue. The world is FULL of bad people. Sorry to break it to you if this is the first time hearing/reading it. There are women who are preyed upon in the parking lot of grocery stores, gyms, and bars all over the world.

The world we live in isn’t heaven and it isn’t hell, but its closer to the latter. If you remember that, don’t get drunk at work, and listen to your intuition, you’ll have a fun and safe career making lots of money. If you leave yourself vulnerable there are positively without a doubt people out there who -will- take advantage of you.

If you have any questions about this post, please leave me a comment and we’ll talk about it.

~Perelandra

*The article above has been cropped. Go Here to read the full story.

Apparently not all Wordpress themes come with working rss feeds. I did not know this until last night. I had to go searching codex (a database for everything Wordpress) for a tiny single line snippet of code.

*smacks forehead with hand*

ANYWAY, it’s now up and you all can enjoy getting updated without constantly checking back.

Just a thought – I may be the hottest nerd stripper ever! LoL

~Perelandra