Psychologically speaking, when you sit down with a customer it is somewhat like a first date. Here are some things to say and not to say while spending time with a gentleman whether you’re in the club or really out on a date.

Top 5 Things Men Love To Hear On A Date

“Then what happened?”
It’s human: A man likes to think that his life is reasonably interesting. And while interrupting him, changing the subject, or acting bored are well-known nails in the coffin, it’s not enough to just sit there, smile, and say, “Uh-huh” every few seconds. Actively egg him on with comments like “You’re kidding! What happened next?” or “Go on…” That way, he’ll know you’re genuinely interested verses just being polite.

“That’s pretty impressive.”
Maybe he placed in a local triathlon. Or got a promotion at work. Or figured out how to fix his boiler. Whatever he’s done, if he’s mentioning it on a date, he’s most likely proud of it and if you feed his ego by applauding his efforts, you’ll make him feel like a king.

“Thank you.”
No doubt about it, manners matter and are sorely lacking in today’s less formal dating scene. Tap into your inner Emily Post, and it’s sure to make you stand out. So, thank him when he tells you that you look pretty tonight. Thank him for paying for dinner. Thank him for walking you to your car. It’s so small a thing, but it’ll make a huge difference to him.

“What do you do when you’re not at work?”
Although a guy’s work might be of primary importance, he also has other things in his life that he values. Does he juggle? Work on his car? Play an instrument? With a little probing, a woman can hit upon hidden passions—and convey that she’s you’re interested in getting a complete picture of him and not just what he does for his salary.

“I’d like to get your opinion on something.”
It’s the damsel in the distress call, and it’s pure catnip for men: That’s because they love feeling useful, and you seeking their advice definitely fits the bill. So whether you need tips on buying a digital camera or how to handle a tricky situation with your boss, he’ll be glad to help. (He will be less eager, however, to comment on shopping, knitting or his dating past…but you knew that.)

And 5 Things Men Hate To Hear On A Date

“My last boyfriend…”
There are so many things to talk about.  Why mention that your ex was an idiot? Why mention that you and your ex are friends? Why mention your ex at all? Whatever you say, all they will hear is, “I’m out with you, but I’m still thinking a lot about another man.” Although men like to compete, they don’t like to do it on a date with men who aren’t even in the same room.

“Do you mind if I take this call?”
Of course they mind. They won’t say they do, but they do. So unless it’s a dire emergency involving your kids or grandmother on her deathbed, let your voice mail pick up.

“So how do you feel about abortion?”
This type of question is known among men as a litmus test, a touchy topic that women raise to gauge whether they’re politically, morally, or spiritually on the same page as them (the death penalty, gay marriage, and the war in Iraq also fit the bill). Sure, they probably have strong opinions. But they’re not interested in getting into them with you, at least not yet. After all, this is a date, not debate club. Just have fun and save more heated back-and-forth discussions for later.

“And then I found this cute pair of sandals…”
Granted, you and your girlfriends can spend hours gushing about shopping, shoes, and new hairstyles. But you’re not out with your girlfriends. You’re out with a guy, remember? And same as how they usually wouldn’t subject you to talk about stocks or their favorite sports teams, do them the same favor.

“How do you feel about having a family?”
Pop this question during those first few dates, and most men will assume your biological clock is ticking fast and that’s not a good thing. It’s not that they don’t want families, many of them do, it’s just that they like to get to know a woman first. And they like to know you like them as more than just as a potential baby-making machine. After all, where’s the romance in that?

Club politics are very important. Play your cards right, and you’ll make more money. How? Say a customer has friends and wants more girls like you to join the group. Who would you choose? The girls you like. Get the right girls on your side and they’ll do the same for you. Working together is the best way to have lots of fun as well as having a great night.

1. Lock up your stuff as best you can. Most clubs provide lockers, however the house girls like to keep locks on them at all times. That may mean you are without one. Get a small lock for your make-up box and dance bag or suitcase and place your regular clothes and make-up in it. Never leave anything out on the counter that your not willing to share or part with (flat iron, hair spray, deodorant, perfume, wipes, etc.). And don’t freak out if someone is using your stuff. There is usually an unspoken rule: if its out – anyone can use it. Most girls don’t have much respect for other peoples property. So, as soon as your done with your things, just put them away. You’ll provide more room on the counter and save yourself the headache of running out of wipes or body spray when you need it.

2. Stay out of the dressing room as much as possible. The dressing room is a safe haven for the girls. However, when someone is pissed off, or annoyed, the first place they go to vent is the dressing room. Don’t subject yourself to all the negativity that happens throughout the night. You’ll be protecting your attitude and prevent getting caught up in the drama. Also, if you see someone upset, wait awhile to ask them about it. Let the emotion subside and then get the story.

3. Never talk about a co-worker even if they’re not there. You don’t have to like everyone you work with. That’s normal. But you never know who might be friends with the person you don’t like. It’s simply better to keep your mouth shut and ignore what others might be saying.

4. When your pissed off or frustrated, don’t go yelling about it to everyone. If you need to vent, do it quietly with one of your friends. Obviously the music in a club is very loud. Keep conscious about your voice level when talking in the dressing room. Talking loudly only makes you sound more dramatic and obnoxious. Ask a friend aside and speak to him/her in a calm manner. You don’t have to freak out in order to process an issue.

5. Don’t be catty. I’ll be the first to admit that some girls just make it so frikin easy. Being catty is not just about what you say verbally but more what your body says. You can look at a girl sideways and not realize that 3 girls saw you. And never talk negatively about another girl at a table. You only look like an ass to the customers.

~Perelandra